If you've ever been blamed for something you KNOW isn't your fault, then you're aware of how bad it feels. My parents are going nuts, emailing me all over the place, calling me immature, etc. I had to hang up on my mother earlier because she was insulting me to the point that I was almost in tears while walking down the street. Now, if someone is telling you to 'shut up' before you can even finish a sentence, is it really worth it to stay on the phone with them?
Just to clarify, the problems have been solved.
I decided to check my mail this afternoon. Couldn't do it yesterday, as I didn't have the key to my box. I expected to find my class schedule mixed in among the leaflets, but it wasn't there. I was a little alarmed to discover a piece of paper telling me I owed $875 to the college. I had no idea what this was all about, obviously, since I don't PAY THE TUITION. My parents do. So I left a message on my mother's machine, telling her what was going on. I expected she'd sort it out with the financial services office without event. So I went back to my old dorm to gather boxes to bring to my room.
When I got back to my room with some boxes, I realized my mother had left three messages on my answering machine. And, of course, my phone didn't work, so I couldn't even check the messages, let alone call her back. I then noticed three new messages waiting for me in my email box, each one angry and urgent. I went outside with the phone (which miraculously decided to work again) and called her at the number she demanded I call her at. She sounded completely vexed. Apparently she had called the financial services office and yelled at them, too. (Incidentally, I went over there later to get something signed and APOLOGIZED to them for my mother's behavior.) She belittled me the whole time, telling me to 'shut up' while I was trying to explain things to her. So, like I said, I was on the verge of tears. I hung up on her just as she was snarling at me again.
I got everything taken care of. I have my schedule now, and even though the financial services office people aren't very fond of me, I have everything sorted out with them. I emailed my father, who also sent me an angry email, telling him the whole story. I certainly hope he's more receptive than my mother.
What's getting to me, though, is that they're calling me immature, and assuming this is all my fault. Hello, the phone isn't something I can fix. I have no idea what the hell's wrong with it -- and, as I've said to them numerous times before, IT IS NOT A BATTERY PROBLEM. Even if the thing is charged all the way, it'll still shut off at random intervals. This is not something I HAVE ANY CONTROL OVER. It certainly isn't something I CAUSED TO HAPPEN, at least on purpose. Oh, and also, I have no idea who the hell my parents think they are, telling me that the financial services problem is my fault. I've said it before and I'll say it again: I do not pay the tuition. I'm very grateful to my parents for the sort of money they shell out for me to be here, but I will not stand idly by as they insult me and take out their anger on me. BOTH my parents do this. And when I say things like, "I'm not going to argue with you" and walk away (which, it seems to me, is a BETTER OPTION than getting into a yelling match), they get even angrier. It's like they need someplace to vent their fury, so why not on the delinquent daughter? Yes, I know I was immature last year. I could have done much better. I was self-indulgent and prodigal. But that doesn't mean I'm helpless. I've already told them I'm going to do better, and I mean it, goddamn it. I CAN do well here, and I'm not going to listen to them tell me I can't, or that I need my hand held.